Counselling and Psychotherapy and Clinical Supervision
There is no agreed description, which satisfactorily distinguishes Counselling and Psychotherapy.
However it can be useful when you are considering what your needs are from a counsellor or therapist to think of counselling as a place to talk, to offload emotionally and feel accepted, supported, encouraged. A time and place for you to focus on whatever difficulties you have at this time in your life, with a skilled and non-judgemental listener. This process of talking and being profoundly heard, accepted and respected, is thought to be the necessary and sufficient condition for you to deal with issues which trouble you in the present, and to gain a greater understanding of yourself.
To develop insight and self awareness and understanding of your relationships.
Counselling in this instance can be seen as either short term or open ended. You can agree a set number of sessions with the practitioner. An initial 6-12 sessions is common. The counselling relationship is a supportive place to use as a resource, a supportive relationship you can return to, as and when you feel the need.
Whilst retaining all the features of counselling, Paychotherpay may be a longer term relationship in which problems arising from childhood are discussed. The therapist may be more active in this process and provide a relationship in which you can resolve issues from the past including the difficult of making meaningful relationships in the present.
When our closest relationship goes wrong we often feel we have nobody to talk to, nobody to turn to. It can seem disloyal to talk to friends or relatives. It may have become impossible to talk honestly with your partner, the intimacy of the conversation too difficult. It can be helpful for either or both to talk individually to a counsellor.
However the couple may choose to see a counsellor together, in this instance the relationship is seen by the counsellor as the client rather than either of the individauls.
The model I have developed for couples counselling is based on the mediation model. I invite each person to come for an individual counselling session where they can offload all their concerns without fear of hurting their partner and where I can get a sense of the relationship from each persons point of view.
At this point I can also help each individual understand what is wrong and what they want to be different. I then invite the couple to come to a joint session where I can facilitate them talking about their relationship.
After these initial three sessions the couple may decide to go away and continue alone or we can make a plan to continue the joint sessions, interspersed with individual sessions when appropriate. Each couple is different, so each plan is different.
I offer consultative supervision for Counsellors, Psychotherapists and other professionals individual and groups.